Accommodating Sex With A Curved Penis

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October 9th, 2014

Having a slight curvature up or to the side is really quite normal. But if your penis hurts when an erection comes along, you have a problem. You aren’t alone, however. Five to ten percent of men have this condition, known as Peyronie’s disease. This is when scar tissue residing within the penis causes it to bend when it becomes erect. The angle can make intercourse difficult or even painful. The degree in which Peyronie’s disease interferes with your life depends on how much it interferes with intercourse, and if it causes pain. Assistant professor of surgery at Cleveland Clinic, Dr. Ryan Berglund told WebMD, “If somebody has a 10-degree curvature, it will have little impact on function. But when you get to 30 degrees or more, that’s when it starts to become significant.” With a big enough angle, penetration may become unmanageable. What’s more, Peyronie’s disease can be painful, according to Drogo Montague, MD. He is the director of the Center for Genitourinary Construction at Cleveland Clinic. Luckily, Montague said, “When healing is complete, pain always goes away.”

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Lots of guys who have Peyronie’s disease also suffer some form of erectile dysfunction (ED). Berglund said, “Having Peyronie’s disease doesn’t mean you have ED, and having ED doesn’t mean you have Peyronie’s disease, but very frequently, someone with Peyronie’s disease will have ED.” He elaborated, “A classic example of that would be somebody who can get rigidity closer to the body than the scar, but beyond the scar, they don’t really get the rigidity necessary for [sex].” In this way, Peyronie’s disease is causing ED. Medications such as Viagra can help in certain instances. Although the disorder may be uncomfortable to talk about, there is treatment and a better quality of life, just the other side of a conversation with your doctor. Ian Kerner, PhD a noted sex therapist said, “It’s not unlikely for men with Peyronie’s disease to have a high degree of shame and embarrassment around this.” Communication with your partner however is critical. Kerner says, “Let your partner know what’s going on and what feels good and what doesn’t, and let your partner also have the experience of giving you pleasure, even if it’s in a nontraditional way.” Another tip from Kerner, “maybe focus a little more on the giving of pleasure as opposed to the receiving of pleasure.”

Tips For Overcoming Performance Anxiety

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October 9th, 2014

In movies the leading man always carries his lady off to the bedroom, and often our mind does the rest. But what goes on is thought to be absolute heaven, where there is never any problem, misstep, worry or care. The truth is both men and women suffer from performance anxiety. It is very common amongst men who feel a lot of pressure to perform in the bedroom, and who wrap their entire masculinity into their prowess. A lot of guys suffer from performance anxiety. It’s actually quite common. If you fear not being able to satisfy your partner, and it’s killing your sex life, here are some tips for overcoming it. First, talk to your partner about your problem. Most men close up, avoid sex and shut their partner out. But this is the worst thing you can do. If you share your problem with your partner, it will bring you two closer together. Your partner will encourage you and it will take the edge off the entire situation. Bring them in and try to work the problem out together. What could be causing you this anxiety? Can you two brainstorm ways to overcome it?

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Next, consider whether the cause is medical or psychological. Go see a doctor to rule out any physical causes. Your physician may also have some advice on overcoming this issue, or can refer you to resources for doing so. Try to change your mindset in the bedroom. Go slowly. Focus on foreplay and how good it feels. Make a solemn vow that you won’t judge each other, but will instead focus on your love for one another, your enjoyment, what feels good and pleasure. Now it’s time to think about other ways to please one another besides penile penetration. Oral or digital stimulation, role play, fantasy, the use of toys and erotica—such as erotic literature or films, can all be important parts of the experience, and can place less pressure on you. If you have been in this rut for some time, take a break from sex. Two or three weeks may make you return with a new outlook and a revving engine. If the problem continues, seek out a mental health professional such as a psychologist or sex therapist. The problem may be deep seeded and require talk therapy. Some men have found hypnosis helpful as well.

Ways to Increase your Sexual Stamina

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October 9th, 2014

Some men worry about satisfying their partners. Others just want to gain an edge in the bedroom, and impress. Whatever your reason, there are ways to increase your sexual stamina. First, consider how you approach the bedroom. Lots of men have all kinds of expectations. If you do, you can be disappointed. It can also limit the spontaneity of the situation. Jettison these expectations. Instead, be open, giving, loving and receptive to your partner and their needs. Next, take a look at the lubrication situation. Lots of guys who use condoms don’t think extra lube is necessary. Condoms often come lubed. But a study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine concluded that those men who used lube, in addition to a condom, lasted longer in bed. One thing women often complain about is that men don’t spend enough time on foreplay. But a guy who really wants to satisfy should listen and include more of it into his repertoire. Kissing, touching, digital and oral stimulation can all add to the experience, and heighten her arousal. The more aroused she gets, the more likely she is to climax.

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Many guys masturbate but without much purpose save that it feels good. Instead, why not use masturbation as a way to learn about your body? What areas are the ones that feel the best? What area of your penis, when stimulated, causes you to orgasm? The more you learn about your body, the easier it will be to control your own orgasm or stave it off, if need be. Sometimes when we have a romantic night planned, we go out to dinner with our lover and consume way more than we should. Too much food can make you drowsy and not in the mood for love. An overindulgence of alcohol also kills one’s performance. Try not to overeat or drink too much, and see an improvement in relations later on in the evening. There are exercises you can use to stave off orgasm, if you come too quickly. Kegel exercises for instance, can help avoid peaking too soon. Learn how to strengthen your pelvic floor by using them. Lastly, get enough sleep. A lack of sleep can make you irritable and obliterate your sex drive.  Follow this simple advice and stay attuned to your partner and you both will soon be enjoying explosive, life-affirming sex whenever the mood strikes.

Are You Using A Condom Correctly?

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October 9th, 2014

Condoms are one of the most common forms of birth control, and the only one for men. When used correctly, a condom is 82% effective as a birth control method. In terms of preventing STDs, latex condoms are the most effective. For those who are allergic to latex, polyurethane is a good alternative. It gives protection though not as much as latex. So-called “natural” condoms such as lamb’s skin are porous and provide little if any barrier. The way condoms deter infection is they obstruct microbes from entering the body. But with lamb’s skin and their ilk, viruses such as HPV, herpes and HIV, and bacteria such as chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis can pass through the pores and cause infection. It is best to purchase either latex or polyurethane condoms. Having the right condom isn’t the only issue. It’s ever so important how you use it. Failure can result in infection or pregnancy, making the effort pointless.

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First, be careful when opening the wrapper.  Taking a corner and tearing across the top is perhaps the best method. Your rings, fingernails or teeth may rip a hole in the condom, so be careful. Next, determine which side is the outside. The condom rolls down from the top. If you place it on top and it doesn’t want to roll down, turn it over. Be sure to pinch air out of the tip before slipping it past the head and shaft. It you don’t, trapped air in the tip can make a little balloon, which will rupture during sex. Be sure to push it all the way down to the bottom of your shaft. The pressure of ejaculation could cause the condom to come off inside of her if it isn’t on all the way. Use a new condom each and every time you engage in intercourse. Only a water-based lubricant will do. Oil-based ones such as body lotions, Vaseline or massage oil can cause the condom to break. Never use two condoms. They will rub against one another and rip each other open. Condoms with spermicide decrease the risk of pregnancy. But they may also increase the risk of STDs, according to some studies. Store condoms properly. Do not keep them somewhere hot like a wallet or a car’s glove compartment. Check the expiration date before use. If it is past the date do not use it. Lastly, make sure the size you are using fits correctly. If it is too large or too snug it won’t work, defeating its purpose.