Are you flubbing the Basics?

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February 24th, 2015

Some guys are confident in their performance. Others know they have a lot to learn. The truth is there are a lot of unsatisfied women out there, as a recent Reddit threat has shown. Are you flubbing the basics in bed? The truth is that the female anatomy isn’t the easiest to figure out. Each woman is different too in what she likes and how she likes to be touched. Still, there are some basic elements that if you master, your bedroom proficiency numbers will go through the roof. First, don’t skim over the foreplay. It takes a while to warm a woman up for sex. If you really want her to enjoy it and come back for more, foreplay is the key. Try kissing her all over, undressing her slowly, and giving one another oral pleasure before penetrating her. Second, communication is key during sex. Lots of guys are the strong silent type. But she’ll feel like she isn’t pleasuring you if she isn’t getting any feedback at all. Let her know how nice it feels. Don’t play it up. Be natural. But don’t give her the silent treatment either. Let her know how much she pleases you. It will make her feel warm, sexy and enthusiastic, all good qualities to bring into the bedroom.

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One thing about guys is they are very goal oriented. That’s why they concentrate on giving her the big-O. But for her it isn’t only about climax. It’s about the experience as much as the orgasm. Of course she wants to be satisfied. But rushing to the conclusion isn’t going to be sexy. It’s going to feel like a race. Instead of building a fun, arousing atmosphere you’ll be putting undue pressure on her and yourself, putting a damper on the whole thing. Instead, be patient. Live in the moment. Use your senses. Vividly enjoy the softness of her skin, the smell of her hair, that look in her eyes when she’s really turned on, the warmth of her body and other sensual happenings as things proceed. If you relish the experience she will too. You’ll both have a better time and orgasm will be far more easily achieved by both of you. If you are going down on her, make it an experience. You want to start off small and slowly build her desire and anticipation. Slowly work your way down. Get up close and personal. Tell her how beautiful it looks down there and how much you love to do this for her. Then take your time. Feel it out. See what she likes, using different techniques and stick with what she really likes once you find out what that is. Don’t be shy. Too many guys are too far away. Dive right in and you’ll notice the difference for both of you.

BDSM, is it for you?

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February 24th, 2015

Are you interested in exploring the kinkier side of sex but afraid of being labeled a pervert, or some other misinformed stereotype? The truth is BDSM which stands for bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism is gaining popularity and acceptance in contemporary society. This is whipping, spanking, role-play, flogging, tease and denial, bondage and other forms of kinkier bedroom play. BDSM’s biggest gain has been the recent popularity of the book series 50 Shades of Grey among women.  A recent study out of the Netherlands found something astonishing. Those in the BDSM community are healthier psychologically. They had higher indicators of mental health than those that didn’t practice BDSM. That’s because they have better communication skills and are more in tune with their partners. So there isn’t anything wrong with practicing BDSM responsibly with another or other consenting adults. So how do you find out if BDSM is for you? Why not watch some porn that incorporates it. How do you feel about it? Does it turn you on? Ask your partner if they’ve ever tried BDSM or if they are interested in it. Show them some porn and see if it turns you on.

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Visit your local sex shop. Lots of sex shop owners can instruct you on different aspects, outfits, accessories, and more. See if there are any groups in your area. Check out videos online and instructional websites.  SM 101: A Realistic Introduction for Beginner’s by Jay Wiseman is one resource. Another is the website www.kinkacademy.com which has videos in the hundreds regarding everything from proper flogging technique to sex toy operation. Remember that the point is to have fun with your partner, learn more about them and yourself and explore more of your sexuality and theirs. You are going to have to do a lot of talking. Approach the subject by first talking about your partner’s fantasies. See if they have a kinky side. If they don’t bring anything up, ask them. But chances are they’ll have a wild side. Explore some of their fantasies together. Do your best to fulfill them.  Then propose one of yours. See how they feel about it. They may be resistant at first, but warm to the idea. So give your partner time and be patient. Start out slow. Have a safety word you both know and won’t forget. This is the word you use to take you out of whatever scene you are playing. There may be things you want to do that your lover is totally not into. That’s okay. But over time you’ll find that they’ll loosen up more, become more confident and be able to try new things. Don’t feel embarrassed if you want to bring a little kink in the bedroom. Chances are your partner will be excited about the notion.

Countries Most Sexually Satisfied

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February 24th, 2015

Though America has come far since the sexual revolution, we are still far behind other countries when it comes to sexual satisfaction. Compared to other countries the U.S. is still very conservative when it comes to sex and sexual issues.  This is thought to have an influence. Nations that aren’t as hung up on sex have a lower teen pregnancy rate, less abortions, more satisfying sex lives and far fewer STDs. Knowledge and being laid back about things, that’s powerful. However, societies that are repressed in other ways don’t always affect the sex lives of the masses. 80% of Russians for instance knock fur-covered boots once a week. But the Russians aren’t the only ones doing it more than we are. Nations overseas have sex 70% more often than Americans. No wonder there’s so much road rage. 48% sexually satisfied is how the good ole U.S. of A. turned up in one survey according to Durex Global Research, the institutional arm to the well-known condom brand. Sexual satisfaction was determined by measuring participant’s satisfaction levels in the areas ofmental and physical health, freedom from stress, excitement in the sex life, mutual respect and love and the ability to orgasm. Another study out this year said that socio-economic status also affected sexual satisfaction.

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Switzerland has consistently been ranked the number one most sexually satisfied country in the world. 21% of Swiss rate their sex lives as “excellent.” The number of Swiss who’ve done the dirty deed outdoors is 32%. Switzerland in the midst of all this shagging has one of the lowest rates of teen pregnancy on the globe. It also stands to be known that prostitution is legal in Switzerland. Sex education can begin young, even in kindergarten, and its views on pornography are very free and easy. Still teen pregnancy in the U.S. is higher than Switzerland to the exponent of ten. Next on the list of most fulfilled is Spain where 90% of the populace is sexually satisfied. 25% of the Spanish label self-performance as “excellent.” Sexual satisfaction in Spain increased within the context of a long-term relationship, as opposed to short-term with multiple partners. One of Spain’s hot commodities is nude beaches. The Spanish are also very accepting of homosexuality and gay marriage. 64% of Italians found their sex lives satisfying. The Italians are known all over the world as great lovers. Also all that great wine and food, all that sensuousness makes you and your lover feel sensual. Now Brazilians famous for their outrageous “Miss Bum” competitions are considered the world’s second best lovers, the first on the list are the Spaniards. Sex once a week, 82% of Brazilians said yes please. According to the Durex poll, Nigeria is the most satisfied in all the world, with a whopping 67% saying they were satisfied. Their sessions are also longer, lasting 24 minutes.

Chlamydia Undermines Body’s Defense against Genetic Mutation

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February 24th, 2015

Though curable with simple antibiotics, those who have the sexually transmitted infection (STI) Chlamydia trachomatis often show no symptoms. This disease causes havoc infecting 90 million worldwide, 70% of which are women. This STI can cause chronic infections and even impact fertility. For decades researchers have been trying to develop a vaccine, but have come up short. Today, they say they are closer than ever. In fact, a few short years ago an Australian team developed a vaccine for koala bears. That’s good news because Chlamydia is proving increasingly antibiotic resistant. Hopefully, a cure will arrive soon as one recent study found that the disease is even worse than first thought.  Researchers at the Max Planck Institute for Infection Biology in Berlin (MPIIB) have now determined that chlamydia actually allows for gene mutations. The body has normal processes for getting rid of damaged cells. But chlamydia obstructs these processes from taking place for its own survival and replication. Such mutations may lead to cancer.

These bacteria live inside cells and depend upon the host cell for sustenance. The bacteria can also alter the functions of the host cell to favor itself and its growth. But scientists until now have not known the results of such manipulation. Studies have shown an increase in cervical and ovarian cancer, which researchers now believe is linked to the bacteria’s ability to allow mutated genes to carry on without reabsorption. In fact, chlamydia can influence both the genome and epi-genome of cells which can lead to lots of different kinds of cancer. The process in which the body rectifies mutated genes is called DNA Damage Response. This response was impaired in infected cells. Repairs to DNA were prone to errors, leading to the survival of more genetic mutations. Though the DNA was damaged, infected cells continue to multiply. Researchers believe this is the first step of carcinogenesis or how such cancers develop. Knowing this can help them create strategies to halt such cancers right in their tracks.

Tantric Sex for Premature Ejaculation

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February 24th, 2015

The most common sexual issue in men is premature ejaculation (PE). Those who have had a testicle removed due to cancer or another condition, in medical terminology known as an orchiectomy, have a higher chance of experiencing PE. Luckily, there are lots of treatment options available. Some men benefit from antidepressants which lessens arousal. Then there are prescription drugs, numbing agents and condoms, and methods such as the start-and-stop method, Kegels and the squeeze method. One natural method is to practice tantric sex or tantric yoga. This is the art of sex through the philosophy of yoga. You may begin by practicing Kundalini yoga. This is a good kind to practice with your partner. It helps with flexibility, muscle control, relaxation and centering one’s self. This will make you more aware of both your own sensations and your partners. Your added perception will help you to focus on your partner and how to fulfill their desires. This form of yoga, like Kegels, may also strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, helping to stave off orgasm. Now you are ready to begin tantric sex.

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The first step is to synchronize your breathing. To do this, sit across from one another looking into each other’s eyes. See if you can harmonize and breathe the same way, inhaling and exhaling at the same time. Practice this for five to ten minutes. Now it is time to incorporate touch. Caress one another’s bodies and talk about what feels good. Maintain eye contact and move into foreplay. Make sure you still breathe in harmony. Go slowly and concentrate on the pleasure you are giving. Ask your partner to tell you what feels good, and do the same. Next, move into penetration. Go slowly. Make it sensual. Exercise mindfulness keeping yourself focused not on your own pleasure but on the moment and everything that’s happening. Keep it slow and remember to breathe deeply. The more you concentrate on your own breathing the longer you will last. Use your pelvic floor muscles to hold back your orgasm. If you believe you are about to climax, take a break. Relax. Change positions or tighten your muscles and breathe deeply. Then carry on. With practice, tantric sex can help couples become closer, increase pleasure and help you to last longer, all at once.