Man’s Testosterone Level Drops after First Year of Marriage

May 26th, 2015

The seven year itch? The four year slump? What about the one year nosedive? The real test of a relationship, at least for the man, may come after just 12-months according to scientists. British researchers at Worcester University found that after one year of a relationship, a man’s testosterone levels drops significantly. During the first year of the couple being together, the man’s hormone level is high. He is ready to fend off competitors so to be the only one for his lady love. He may also be ready to engage in other sexual experiences early on, in case this relationship doesn’t work out. But after a 12-month period his testosterone level falls significantly. 75 male participants between the ages of 18 and 39 took part in this study. Each was queried about his relationship status and how long it had lasted. Then the men’s testosterone levels were measured. Those in new relationships saw their hormone levels sink after one year’s time, researcher’s discovered. For those in relationships for much longer, their testosterone level plummeted even further, by one-third.


Dr. Daniel Farrelly led the study. He is a psychologist at the university’s Institute of Health and Society. Farrelly believes this may be a biological sign of certain external cues that the couple is expected to remain in a committed relationship. Another reason could be that less testosterone would make a man less aggressive, and so better at raising children and other aspects of fatherhood. Whether a man was single or in a relationship didn’t affect his hormone level. Only when he reached the year mark or beyond did he see his level drop. This adaptation may have helped men switch gears into becoming husbands and fathers instead of fighting off would-be competitors or scoping the scene for other females. The study was published in in the journal Evolutionary Psychology.

Would you go to a Female Urologist?

May 26th, 2015

According to a WebMD poll only 8% of urologists operating today are female. That should not be a big surprise as women are making more inroads in what were considered traditional male occupations. Some male patients might be embarrassed at the thought of interacting with a female urologist. After all, examining penises is a big part of the job. Other conditions urologists treat include urinary tract, bladder and kidney problems. These tend to affect both sexes equally, hence the increase in women in the field. Dr. Leslie Rickey is the president of the Society for Women in Urology, an associate professor at the Yale School of Medicine and herself a practicing urologist. She says it isn’t just male genitals urologists’ deal with. In fact, a lot of her practice is helping women who have issues with leaking urine. The Society began in the 1980s, she said. At that time, few women were on the scene. Nowadays, there are a lot more. But there is still a great disparity in this and for many other specialists in the medical field.


The number of female urologists is growing. Currently, 25% of medical school graduates who are working toward becoming urologists are women. It has been a slow growth rate, however. Many men shudder and ask themselves if they would go to a female urologist. Some say since it’s a medical professional, it shouldn’t matter what their gender is. Instead, their background, expertise, professionalism, patient rapport and conscientiousness are what are important. In other cases however, male patients feel uncomfortable about opening up to a female urologist. But usually, one female urologist is part of a practice. She is there to deal with women’s issues. Lots of women are hesitant to go to a male urologist. So having one that is female within a practice is a good draw and benefits female patients as well. Though being examined by a female urologist isn’t common, it may become more so someday as gender roles in our society flatten and more women enter into the practice.

How to Overcome Lack of Confidence about Penis Size

May 26th, 2015

Our society puts a lot of weight on penis size. Though 85% of men are average, according to a recent British study, the media, internet porn and other sources have pushed men into thinking they need to be huge in order to be significant. In reality, it only takes four inches to satisfy a woman during intercourse. And most don’t orgasm via penetration anyway. Instead, they need clitoral stimulation to reach climax. So size really isn’t the focal concern it seems to be. Yet, many men have difficulty overcoming the lack of confidence about their penis size. Here are some tips on how to make yourself feel more confident and give her the time of her life. First, realize that if used properly, sex experts say a four and a half inch penis can feel just as satisfying as the six inch variety. With this new information, feel confident. If you can’t, fake it until you make it. Chances are if you can turn her on with your confidence, your wit, personality and through wooing her, she will be too busy gushing over you to care about what you are packing.


When the time comes to be intimate together, spend a lot of time getting her in the mood. Most men only make a cursory attempt at foreplay. In fact,warming up a woman is one of the best things you can do. Begin foreplay way before you get into the boudoir.  Give her a long hug.  Romance her. Pay her compliments. Give her a massage. Make her feel good. Then move on to making out with her. Once in the bedroom, slow down. Kiss her and touch her all over. Make her the focus, not you. Find out what kind of pillow talk she prefers and use it. Give her some clitoral stimulation before penetration. You don’t have to reveal yourself to her, especially the first time. In fact, lots of women like to do it in the dark. During intercourse, vary your technique. Utilize positions to make the most out of intercourse. Doggie style, the rabbit, the snake, the antelope and V-formation are all great positions for those who feel they are less endowed.  With the proper strategy and technique you can satisfy any woman no matter what you are packing.

How to get in a Sexy Mood

May 19th, 2015

Feeling warmth and closeness is essential to keeping your relationship fresh and alive. But you aren’t always in the mood for getting close. Worries, work, stress and other problems often get in the way. Sometimes we’re just too tired to give our partner or our relationship the attention they deserve. So what do you do? How do you get in a sexy mood and warm things up? Here are some ideas on how to get in a sexy mood. For one thing, why not try a little exercise? It doesn’t have to be too strenuous. A decent walk at a medium pace can increase your libido. A half hour on the ellipsis machine can make you feel brand new. Exercise gives you energy and a more positive body image. It will boost your self-esteem too. And what’s sexier than a little confidence? Try stimulating your senses.  Why not put on a sexy scent to charm your lover or just yourself? Wear sensual fabrics that feel amazing while they rub against your body all day. Suede, silk, or satin are great choices. Not only that, but your partner might be so enamored with how soft your garment looks, they’ll want to reach out and touch you. Make it a whole ensemble and they won’t be able to keep their hands off of you!

Smiling young couple in love

Why not put on a performance? Dance in your living room to music you love. Belt out your favorite tune on the album. Good music can definitely get you in a sexy mood. Why stop there? Put on a little performance for your lover or even ask them to join in with you. Sometimes in today’s million-mile-a-minute world, we lose focus on other sides of ourselves and what we really like. Getting in tune with what turns you on can be a chance at self-discovery, both to help your lover get more in tune with you, but also just to know about yourself. Why not keep a journal? Have a record of sexy things that happened, or something you saw, smelled, or did that turned you on. Write about your date or your partner. Remind yourself how you really feel about them. Recall some really steamy moments you two shared. Finally, get in touch with the power of touch. When they’re complaining about the traffic jam on the way home from work, reach out and show your concern by holding their hand. After a little while squeeze it and run your thumb over the top of their hand. Or offer them a backrub. Doing something nice for your partner can make them feel better and get them in the mood. And from that you’ll likely get in the mood too.

4 Reasons Women Experience a Lower Sexual Desire than Men

May 19th, 2015

It probably doesn’t come as a surprise that men are up for sex more than women.  This can cause a problem for couples.  It’s not that a woman doesn’t desire or care about sex.  It can be quite the opposite, actually.  However, women especially care about lovemaking in the context of a committed relationship. An assortment of factors can interrupt positive feelings a woman may have towards experiencing sex. Read on to learn of the four reasons you may not be having sex.


Physiological differences

These differences make it more challenging for a woman to want sex, become aroused during sex, and come to climax.  It has been discovered by researchers that testosterone, which in previous days was considered a ‘male’ hormone, is what powers the male and female sex drives.  On top of that…men have a whopping 10 to 20 times more testosterone than women.  Additional hormonal factors may influence a woman’s fluctuation in sex drive over time.

Psychological reasons

Decreased sex drive can be a symptom that comes along with clinical depression, which women are significantly more likely to experience.  Unfortunately, many antidepressants and other drugs used to treat depression lead to a decrease in libido and even prevent orgasms from being achievable.  Sex is an important part of life, so it may be difficult to understand the benefit of a drug lifting depression, yet dampening a part of the human experience that can be so joyful.  Another factor that may interfere with a woman’s sexual desire is past sexual trauma.  Women are more likely to have been sexually abusedand, even though they desire to be a pleasing lover, they might be experiencing deep fear and shame.

Body image

Women struggle with body image issues more than men, and this can dramatically affect their feelings about sexuality.  Due to a lot of messages in media (magazines, TV, etc.) that give us unrealistic figures by which to compare our bodies, many women believe their bodies are never ‘perfect’ enough.  Some women hear about ‘imperfections’ every day from their significant other, while other women may have very supportive partners who find them sexually attractive, but still despise their own bodies.

Lack of energy

It’s true–men do more housework these days–their share and sometimes more.  Yet, studies show that women are still taking on more housework and childcare, overall, even when they have full-time jobs outside of the home.  Dr. John Gottman, author of the book Why Marriages Succeed or Fail says, “Being the sole person in the marriage to clean the toilet is definitely not an aphrodisiac!”  He has conducted extensive research on married couples and found that happier relationships and better sex lives were linked to couples where men did more housework and taking care of children.  That sure is some research that needs to get into the heads of certain men!