The dry spell in women is quite common – hormonal imbalances, age, menopause, pregnancy — a number of factors can affect normal vaginal lubrication and lead to dryness. Most women might undergo painful intercourse due to this. In men, it is quite unheard off, but not impossible. Men can also suffer from dry orgasm at times when semen refuses to release, in spite of having a pulsating and pleasurable orgasm. Here is how a male orgasm works.
There are various factors for this sexual phenomenon, like:
Age: Teenagers and men in early twenties are more likely to experience dry orgasm if they have an active sexual life or masturbate frequently. Young men are more likely to recover soon from an orgasm and get ready to go for the act soon again. Like women, young men can also undergo multiple orgasms before the semen builds up in the testis. Sometimes it can take up to a day (in younger males) and experiencing more orgasms could mean a dry spell. However, this isn’t particularly harmful to adolescents and young men. However, men in their 30s or 40s find it difficult to orgasm multiple times or recover from an orgasm quickly .
Medical problems: For men who are suffering from prostate problems — surgery, treatment, radiotherapy — dry orgasm can become frequent. This is because the seminal fluid goes backward into the urinary bladder, rather than coming out of the urethra. This is also called retrograde ejaculation. Here are signs of prostate cancer all men should know.
Physiological problems: A weak pelvic structure or a blocked valve in the bladder could also restrict the flow of semen out and make it travel backwards.
Should you worry about this problem?
This depends on how often you experience dry orgasm or retrograde ejaculation. Remember, if semen travels backwards quite often, it could affect conception, as it depletes sperm count. However, dry orgasm could also be a result of psychological trouble, sexual inadequacy triggered by performance anxiety or lack of interest in the partner. However, if you are suffering from dry orgasms, it is better to meet an expert, preferably an andrologist and get yourself evaluated.
 Kinsey, Alfred C. et al. (1948/1998). Sexual Behavior in the Human Male. Philadelphia: W.B. Saunders; Bloomington, IN: Indiana U. Press.
Over-the-counter dietary supplements and therapies sold to improve male sexual health may be ineffective and even unsafe, says a report published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine.
Around 40-70% of men experience sexual dysfunction at some time.
To avoid paying for prescription drugs, or the embarrassment of discussing such matters with their physicians, many turn to over-the-counter (OTC) products.
Sales of dietary supplements doubled in the US from 1999-2007, and around 50% of Americans use them for a variety of conditions.
The dazzling array of products, from horny goat weed to ginseng, costs from $0.83 to $5.77 per day. But lack of regulation on dosage, purity or ingredients, and limited information regarding health effects confuses patients and medical practitioners alike.
Researchers from Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center in Winston-Salem, NC, reviewed the scientific evidence for the effectiveness and safety of the most common ingredients in top-selling men’s health products.
They wanted to provide urologists with a guide for counseling patients who present with sexual health problems and who are taking such supplements.
Prescription ingredients sold OTC
There was no scientific evidence to support claims that many products positively impact erectile function, libido and sexual performance, and some were likely to be unsafe.
Some products advertised as “natural” contain traces of phosphodiesterase-5-inhibitors (PDE5Is), the same class of medication that includes prescription drugs such as Viagra, which is used to treat erectile dysfunction. PDE5Is cannot be legally sold over the counter in the US, because using them without a physician’s supervision could be risky.
Patients with advanced heart disease or who take nitrates, such as nitroglycerin, should not use PDE5Is, as it may cause an unsafe drop in blood pressure.
PDE5Is should also be avoided by men with severe liver impairment or end-stage kidney disease. Those with enlarged prostates who take medications such as Flomax (tamsulosin), terazosin or doxazosin should only take it with supervision, as interactions may cause dizziness, leading to falls and fractures.
In one study, 81% of OTC products purchased in the US and Asia contained PDE5Is.
Pros and cons of popular ingredients
The findings on some of the best-selling products can be summarized as follows:
DHEA is a hormone naturally made by the human body and produced in laboratories from chemicals found in wild yam and soy. While findings do not suggest a benefit, it appears to be relatively safe, as the impact on hormone levels is not significant
Fenugreek features in 1 in 3 top-selling men’s health supplements. It may improve sexual arousal and orgasm, muscle strength, energy and well-being. There was no evidence of adverse effects
Ginkgo biloba is taken for numerous conditions, but data does not support its use in erectile dysfunction. It can cause headache, seizures and significant bleeding, especially if taken alongside Coumadin
Ginseng is the most common ingredient in top-selling men’s health supplements; it can cause headache, upset stomach,constipation, rash and insomnia. It can also lower blood sugar, risky in cases of diabetes
Horny Goat Weed is generally safe with rare reports of toxicity leading to fast heart rate and hypomania; it has no apparent benefit for sexual function
L-arginine is the top amino acid in men’s health supplements, featuring in 1 in 3 best sellers. It may improve erectile function in some patients and seems relatively safe. It has been associated with a drop in blood pressure but without significantly changing the heart rate
Maca is the most common vegetable among top-selling men’s health supplements. Maca has been associated with increased sexual behavior in animals but not in humans. Rare cases of toxicity and a mild increase in liver enzymes and blood pressure have been reported.
Tribulus promises to treat a range of conditions, but evidence is lacking to prove its effectiveness; two young men suffered liver and kidney toxicity after taking high doses. Yohimbine is a well-established product that may improve male sexual function, but it can also cause hypertension, headache, agitation, insomnia and sweating. Zinc appears to be safe but not beneficial.
A parent would rather feed their child the birds and bees story when it comes to discussing this issue. Gordon Ochieng, Youth Programme Manager at Family Health Option Kenya, explains why they do not mince words
Briefly tell us about Family Health Options Kenya (FHOK)?
FHOK is a local non-governmental organisation that provides Sexual and Reproductive Health Services through clinics and community projects that actively involve beneficiaries. It has a presence in 14 counties, with strong grassroots network.
What motivated the organisation to start youth centres?
We started youth centres after realising most young people don’t visit hospital for check-up because they fear their parents. With the ever increasing sexual and reproductive health problems such as sexually transmitted infections, HIV/Aids, unsafe abortions, high infant mortality rate, escalating adolescent problems and an increasing population, we realised that there is need for a place where youth can gather and learn about their sexual reproductive health in a youth-friendly setting. Our youth centres are located in Nairobi, Mombasa, Eldoret, Nakuru, Meru, Bondo and Kisumu.
If a young person visits the centre today, what kind of services would they get?
In our centres, we offer youth-friendly services such as clinic services, VCT and general counselling, vocational training, capacity building, library, knowledge, informational services and recreational activities.
How many people have benefited from your youth programme?
More than 500,000 youths have benefited from our projects. We hope to reach a bigger number in the next five years through our outreach activities.
What is the criteria for one to join your youth programme?
There is no criteria. Every youth is welcome to our centres and it’s free to access our services. Sex education is a thorny issue here in Kenya.
Why did you choose to go down this path?
The issue of sex education has become an exceptionally controversial one. Our curriculum teaches knowledge, behaviour, attitudes and skills that promote committed family relationships, healthy l relationships, good character and good reproductive health.
Sex education seeks to assist children in understanding a positive view of sexuality, provide them with the skills about taking care of their sexual health and help them to acquire skills to make decisions now and in the future.
One of your initiatives is the Youth Sexuality Education (YES) project. What is its impact?
There has been decrease of pregnancies in schools where this project has been implemented. Further, health service providers have indicated that young people were reporting fewer incidences of sexually transmitted infections.
On December 4th 2014, the International Centre for Reproductive Health (ICRH) at Ghent University organized an international conference on adolescent sexual and reproductive health (ASRH) and well-being. This viewpoint highlights two key messages of the conference – 1) ASRH promotion is broadening on different levels and 2) this broadening has important implications for research and interventions – that can guide this research field into the next decade. Adolescent sexuality has long been equated with risk and danger. However, throughout the presentations, it became clear that ASRH and related promotion efforts are broadening on different levels: from risk to well-being, from targeted and individual to comprehensive and structural, from knowledge transfer to innovative tools. However, indicators to measure adolescent sexuality that should accompany this broadening trend, are lacking. While public health related indicators (HIV/STIs, pregnancies) and their behavioral proxies (e.g. condom use, number of partners) are well developed and documented, there is a lack of consensus on indicators for the broader construct of adolescent sexuality, including sexual well-being and aspects of positive sexuality. Furthermore, the debate during the conference clearly indicated that experimental designs may not be the only appropriate study design to measure effectiveness of comprehensive, context-specific and long-term ASRH programmes, and that alternatives need to be identified and applied. Presenters at the conference clearly expressed the need to develop validated tools to measure different sub-constructs of adolescent sexuality and environmental factors. There was a plea to combine (quasi-)experimental effectiveness studies with evaluations of the development and implementation of ASRH promotion initiatives.
A growing number of people refuse to be put into male or female categories, either because they do not identify as male or female, or because they are going through transition to the opposite gender.
Germany, Australia, Nepal and Pakistan now offer a third gender option on official forms with other countries set to follow suit. And scientists are finding more evidence to suggest that even biological sex is a spectrum.
Do we need to re-imagine our binary world and rethink one of the most basic parts of our identity?
Brin Bixby was brought up as a boy, and went on to get married and father children before coming out as bigender. She set up Bigender.net, which reflects the view that gender is a spectrum.
“In college I wore a dress on Halloween, and it was supposed to be a joke, and the people helping me thought it was going to be hyper-real, exaggerated. [But] I didn’t want to be a drag queen, I wanted to be a woman, and I think it took people by surprise.
“It was the first time I looked in the mirror and saw myself. People interacted with me as a woman: they saw me the way I wanted them to.
“I would be most comfortable if I didn’t have to think about my gender, but unfortunately that’s not how it works for me and a lot of other non-binary people.
“We have a cultural understanding of what gender is and looks like, and in the west we have a very binary view of it. My sense of gender as a part of my identity shifts.
“I present as a woman everywhere I go, except for at work and at my children’s school, because it gets very exhausting to have to explain gender fluidity to everyone I meet.
“Ideally we would not make gender such a huge focus of our culture, which would give people the freedom to inhabit their gender in ways that feels most comfortable to them.
“What we’re seeing now is a relaxation of the sense of binary amongst younger people and internet-savvy people who are inhabiting much more fluid spaces.”
Mark Gevisser: Accept the gender continuum
Writer Mark Gevisser explores gender identities across different cultures.
“We know there’s a gender continuum, because there have always been effeminate boys and masculine girls. Transgender is certainly not a western phenomenon. In many cultures all over the world there are traditionally third gender or gender-fluid identities.